Here I kept thinking … about different things. Well, for example, I believe words. This is the truth man says and I believe. And she tried to avoid it many times, because it turned out to be untrue. And some people do not believe. For example, at the age of 22, I met a married man, and he told me at the very first meeting that we would not have a relationship other than “such” for sex and entertainment, but since I was really very interested in him, there were many common hobbies, opportunities, which include beautiful and expensive establishments, there was much to discuss and much to share, as well as I “didn’t have to at that moment” to get married, I agreed and did not regret it. I believed. Which is exactly the case and in no way different. And this faith, in my opinion, kept me from “falling in love by accident.” Like a movie star, for example. When I had a boyfriend and later, when I was going to get married, we met as friends and then gradually somehow lost our way in life.
And so I often come across stories, allegedly “I knew that he was married, but I thought that it was somehow after that…” And I think, it means that people do not believe words, because they are told directly that I am so-and-so, and they do not even hide the past history (they say this is not the first relationship on the side). So, a person believes in something else? Not in words, not in deeds. In general, in something unrelated to another person.
Believing in these often beautiful fairy tales that people meet, fall in love, get married, then live long and happily, and then one day die happy-happy has led to a lot of neurosis. Because in life, if such a thing could happen once, once upon a time with dinosaurs, then surely no one held the candle, and how it really happened is not known for sure, whether life was short or they met late, and in any case, take this as a rule the idea is not possible. Nowadays, nobody has seen anything like this, but everyone tells each other. And of course, purely theoretically, it can be assumed that the relationship simply took place and happened without work, contracts, discussions and back-and-forth, but then it is necessary that two absolutely healthy and psychologically mature people meet, and where are they to start if we all come from childhood and from this planet ? Apparently, you can’t work in a mine and be healthy.
But I’m not actually talking about that, but about that surprisingly strong faith inside, which sprouted under incredibly inappropriate circumstances, but stubbornly. It seems logical that neither magical orcs nor flying fairies meet near the subway, since we do not see them (at least in a normal state), but no! We believe and get hurt, and again, like a “pony in a circle.” So, it is necessary for something. So, it saves from something. Perhaps it is from self-confidence and responsibility for one’s life, as well as from being accused of laziness. Because when you hear the phrase “unlucky” – then you won’t be able to object. If you are unlucky, you can fold your paws and lie down with them in the direction of the door.
This protection is one hundred percent. Because once the idea has settled, that “it must be”, namely: to meet a person who will understand everything, forgive and even see in the depths, in the thickest, right under the web, a beautiful soul, through a not too beautiful body and not too pure” think”, (by the way, for some reason, this idea is not so monolithically convincing with regard to the work of your dreams – even the most dreamy dreamers are aware that you will have to do a lot yourself to make it “happen suddenly”), then it is enough to just wait. You can stock up on candy and patience to pass the time and wait… like Rapunzel. Although I would have noticed that in the original fairy tale, the prince who climbed the tower to her did not do it with the aim of getting married, firstly, and secondly, that pulling him up and down, by the way, is not an easy job.
In short, the matter is, as usual, “vital”, but still, why not believe in reality? What am I missing? If they tell me this and show it to me right away. It is so clearly visible, especially if you look the truth in both eyes. Saves a lot of effort and time. There is definitely enough for life. Therefore, my opinion is that in relationships, love, friendship, etc. it’s better to participate and know for sure how things are going, but to believe.. it’s better to believe in domestic ones, there’s less harm in everything 🙂
