You can choose not to come – don’t come
Why meetings are unnecessary – there is no need.
Broken, no matter how much,
He does not go, although there is a need for it.
I remember the “ancient” game Super Mario. So tired of running away from someone all the time, rescuing an aunt in a veil, defeating dragons. You think you would run for yourself and look at the scenery while running, pick up sparkles. And then I accidentally found out that if you go back, the picture hangs and you can run around there as much as you can, collect coins, no snails will eat you alive, I don’t want to make it shorter, but the pancake gets boring after a while and even the absence of hedgehogs doesn’t make me happy, I want to Somehow, they say, he was rushing to finish, but there was nothing to “kill” the girls. The only way is to wait for time to pass.
It turns out that even on the example of a primitive game, the excitement of the moment and at least some sense appears only where there are obstacles, the probability of the end and the company of even hedgehogs.
– Why are you crying?
– I don’t know… I’m sorry…
– Who?
– You! And myself…
The drunkard at the train station called her names because she didn’t answer him enough .. somehow politely, for example, or any other adjective .. as he wanted it to be shorter. And although in fact she is the only person who could be of interest to him because of her profession as a therapist and he chose her with an unerring sense and turned to her, but the problem is that he contacted her in his usual way, which I am sure gets the same unpleasant result.
How many times in my life have I done the opposite? Did you want to hug and hide your hands behind your back, did you want to quietly ask and scream demanding, did you want an apology and madly accused?
She was not upset. And I. About his various relationships. Especially about their completion.
Is it possible to lose an important relationship at once… And after a quarrel with my second girlfriend in a short time, I thought hard. My husband and I were the only guests at the first friend’s wedding, and the other had about the same number of friends. That is, as if my value was obvious. And on the other hand, the method of contact in aggression, in my opinion, did not involve either correction or actually an apology afterwards. What about me? I am a master of taking offense. It is embedded in me strongly and deeply, especially in relation to my inner justice.
And you know, it didn’t happen just like that, suddenly. There were reasons not to do it, it’s just that the dose was not critical until a certain time. I asked one many times not to “twist my hands” by questioning me about the details of my personal life, it got to the point of absurdity, before going to a meeting with her, I simply asked on the phone not to ask me questions on this topic. Swearing repeatedly. It mostly blew my mind. Somehow, brought to the “pen” by another question, she roared with a mother. Then she didn’t apologize, because firstly, she warned me, and secondly, I didn’t care how it would end in order to let me go. Somehow they taxied. And then one completely wrong step on a completely abstract topic turned out to be the last. There turned out to be an edge from which it all fell as if from a cliff. And yet, in my opinion, it is not subject to restoration.
The other chose me as the target of her anger, apparently considering it less of a loss than the other option. Perhaps she did not take into account that it would not be possible to simply drive through. And I, considering the relationship more valuable than the previous one, still tried to clarify the situation. To my message that it was unpleasant for me and a request to explain what the matter was, I received the phrase “Then”, and then an hour later a moronic picture that has nothing to do with the topic came. I don’t know, for sure, about the correctness of the conclusions, but I make one for sure. If the relationship is valuable, you NEED TO TALK. And of course, if only one person needs them, nothing will happen. Psychotherapists and their families know and learn from themselves and “cats”. With people who are away from it, as if something interferes. Personally, it bothers me to run, waving a white flag with a request to listen to me, etc. visible indifference or lack of enthusiasm mm.. of the second participant. I didn’t always know how and knew the need to find out something, I wanted to just leave and that’s all, but always, absolutely always, when someone was wiser than me and went to contact me, I was FOR, I was GRATEFUL to the point of tears, I never turned away, I forgave and apologized. And therefore yes, I conclude that if you don’t want to talk about this restoration, in principle, it is not necessary. And it’s not worth it. Everything has a limit. Everything ends sooner or later one way or another. Expiration date. Maybe someday, after you take a couple of steps back and the picture hangs like in a game, then permanent reality will become visible and maybe relationships will have value, and people too, and aggression will have a price or cost. And it is possible that a new relationship will begin, with the same person, but still completely different, taking into account time, and the environment and conclusions, to be more precise about the transformations of the participants or their mimicry, who is lucky.
You can say it – say it
Now there are more chances to hear.
If the truth is pain, shut up, shut up,
The pain of the returnee is harder to forget.
