Recently, I often encounter comparing myself with others in my work with clients. And it is the same for both men and women. Soc. networks strongly make you feel “nedo” compared to “them” in photos on paradise islands in winter, in giant glass offices, chic elevators, and brides in limousines. And somehow it escapes attention that almost always behind every wedding dress there is a series of painful breaks, behind the mirror glass of a skyscraper a series of defeats and searches for work to somehow survive, and behind chic dresses and jewelry there may be nothing at all, all this may be ahead.
Life is like a spiral, you are up, then down, then in flight again (the right direction is this). Usually reading posts of people who write that they just changed their life, job, place of residence, couple, etc. and now they feel great against the background of a leather sofa, you start to believe it and think that you are somehow not like that. “They are all not like that.” They are all “not like that”.
Personally, I have never seen it to be SIMPLE, it is usually “horrible, painful, scary, long, depressing, hopeless, desperate” (emphasis added), and then everything changes, often hard and slowly and with a creak, as they begin turn old rusty millstones. Or that’s all, not quite true. Or rather, it’s not true at all, for a penny 5 out of 100. Maybe there are stories when “once and for all”, but I haven’t seen them live, so I’m silent about it. Well, of course, it should be noted that no one has canceled envy in this world. And in my opinion, this is another engine of “progress”. An evil force that pushes us forward to do something to get what we want.
Naturally, the time that chose us, it is customary to go through life juggling family, career, hobbies, travels, etc. while trying not to spoil anything in the process, I will still stick to my opinion that it is unlikely, and if it is likely, then it is so difficult that somewhere “hello” will still come out (what you are “not good at”), as the Wise Scarecrow has needles and pins on his head.
So choose to do what you can afford right now. Do not tear your soul and nerves that everything is magical in others. It is really important to many people to be thought of in this way, and each such story has its value. Everything is possible in this world. Just not very simultaneously. And although it is very attractive to be “smart and beautiful” at once, it is still dangerous..??
